Pulling yourself towards yourself

I get periods in my life when everything around me is so consuming, and only because I let it. This mostly happens when I’ve been working so hard and trying to prove to myself and society that I’m a super mom, engineer, wife, sister, friend…. During these times I’m at a high, and everything seems achievable. Between work meetings and commissioning, there’s birthday parties which I agree to, gigs to support my husband and meet-ups with my girls. I just go on and on committing to everything with the belief that ‘I’M SUPERWOMAN’.

Alas, everything that goes up, must come down. I don’t just ease into exhaustion, I jump into it. I fall so hard like a little baby trying to walk for the first time. Most times I worry that I’m getting into depression. Bless my husband who will quickly remind me that it’s just the superwoman syndrome. ‘Sleep, eat, exercise’, he will say, ‘that’s all you need’. Honestly being an engineer doesn’t help much because stressful environments are what I’m exposed to on daily basis, it’s my life.

How I slow down

1. Run, run, run… I get on the treadmill and run until I break down. Exercise is an amazing mood lifter. Now getting up and starting the run, that’s the problem.

2. I stalk the kids. They can be such a saving grace at times. Just staring at the Minions for the hundredth time really relaxes me. How they laugh and smile at small things, even if they’ve seen it over and over. This is what centers me.

3. I talk myself into positivity. Fake it until you make it. My mantra is ‘I’m ok, I’m blessed, I’m happy’, even if I don’t feel like it. I say it out loud.

4. And then, I talk to God. I scream and shout, and praise him. In the car, in the loo, at the mall, I talk to him like he is physically besides me. So if you see me talking to myself, don’t think I’ve lost it. I’m just acknowledging his presence and reminding him of all he promised me. ‘I’m the head and not the tail’. The more I pray, the calmer I become, and I remember how he is in control. I forget all material things.

What do you do to get back into balance? How do you cope with stress?

  1. Wow I also find myself burning out and the kids are good mood lifters they are so carefree and it amazes me and we do need to slow down sometimes amazing post

  2. This sounds sooo familiar! I find that the drive to work/home also sets the tone for the mood you'll be in when you arrive at your destination. I listen to Joel Osteen's podcasts in the car, the messages are always so positive and uplifting. Reserving 2 hours of the weekend to be by yourself also works wonders – pop in a DVD to keep the kids occupied for 90 minutes while you relax in your room.

  3. I love this post it is so true and real, I know all about the superwoman syndrome and having ADHD on top of that doesn’t help as I am always looking around for more things, and then something else, catches my eye. So firstly you are not alone, and secondly superwoman has nothing on you, she must just sit down. Its good that you find the moments to focus on whats important, and listen to you need to crash

  4. They don't know just how important their presence is mommy, don't know what I would do without them.

  5. I absolutely love Joel Osteen. I have all his books on audible, and listen to them on my drive to work as well, amazing how alike we are.

  6. HEHEHE, you just made my day. Girlfriends like you should be first on the survival list, you make me feel so good about myself.

  7. Oh gosh I know, I know! For me I need to catch up on sleep – I need to slow down and go to bed at 9 and sleep longer for 2 or 3 nights. And yes, your last point. Our true Saving Grace

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