My first marriage lasted for 1 year and I’m not exaggerating. We had known each other for a while, were madly in love and thought that’s what we wanted. I ignored all the signs that something was amiss. You know when they say: ‘Problems are only heightened after marriage’? True story. Everything that could go wrong, did. Weighing only 45 kg and carrying my 1 year old daughter, I left everything behind. And just like that I became a single parent. I write this from a place of love and appreciation because that period of my life shaped me into the parent that I am…. Dear Single Parents
To you single parents
I want you to know that I see you, I was you.
I know you didn’t choose this. This wasn’t your plan. You didn’t want to raise your children without their father/mother. Doing this alone was not part of the plan.
You didn’t expect his death, nor anticipate divorce. Neither did you foresee separation, or prepare for his absence. You thought they’d always be there. Never, in a million years, did you imagine that you would become a single parent.
I know you wake up every morning wondering if the decisions you made the day before were the right ones. If maybe you should’ve tried harder to make it work. I know every time your child acts out you blame yourself for their reaction. You think it’s because you are not enough, your child needs more.
Listen, you are amazing
If nobody has ever told you that, well I’m telling you that today.
You probably don’t always feel this way, but when I look at you I see strength. I see courage, determination, endurance, and self-sacrifice. I see a parent who overcomes obstacles; who gets things done and knows how to hold her own.
I see God’s hand working in every aspect of your life, and I take comfort in the fact that like you, I will never be alone.
I hope you can find some comfort—some encouragement—in knowing that you are an inspiration to others. Because you are. I know you struggle at times, and that it’s not easy doing what you do. But that’s what makes you amazing. Because you keep on doing it.
My daughter is 15 yrs old and such an amazing, motivated human being. She is intelligent, humble and appreciative. Yes she gets moody sometimes, but so does every teenager. This just proves how normal she turned out. So please give yourself a break. Mommy/daddy, you are doing an outstanding job.